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\nThe teenage years can be among the trickiest times for a parent. You have been used to being your child\u2019s voice of reason. Then, all of a sudden, your authority is challenged by their peers, social media and huge developmental changes.<\/p>\n

But the good news is children aged ten to 12 are still\u00a0more influenced<\/a>\u00a0by their parents than their friends.<\/p>\n

This makes it the ideal time for parents to establish parenting practices that will set the tone for when their child crosses over into adolescence.<\/p>\n

Our research<\/strong><\/h4>\n

In a\u00a0recent study<\/a>, colleagues and I looked at the perspectives, needs and behaviours of 2,600 Victorian parents.<\/p>\n

This was part a study, run every three years and funded by the Victorian government, which aims to build a better understanding of parenting today.<\/p>\n

A key finding was parents of teenagers reported they were less confident about their parenting than parents of younger children.<\/p>\n

Parents of teenagers also reported greater levels of concern about their children\u2019s behaviour, including how to manage their child\u2019s use of technology. Parents of teens were less likely to use positive discipline methods they had previously used such as praise and rewards for good behaviour.<\/p>\n

They also said they felt as though there was less support for parenting teenage children (as opposed to younger ones). This may leave parents feeling under-prepared to guide their child through the many developmental changes that take place during adolescence.<\/p>\n

The tweenage years<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Physical and emotional changes during the teenage years are\u00a0widely understood<\/a>. But young people also typically go through\u00a0significant changes<\/a>\u00a0in the years before their 13th birthday, which some call the \u201ctweens\u201d. And this can challenge a parents\u2019 relationship with their kids.<\/p>\n

On top of the start of puberty, tweens can face additional expectations within the home, have to navigate the move to high school, and deal with\u00a0increasing use of technology and social media<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Between ten and 12, a child starts to develop new behaviours, attitudes and preferences, which can challenge the way a parent has previously parented. Increasing interest in bodily changes and sexuality starts to emerge. As can the demands for more freedoms to interact with the world without parents being present.<\/p>\n

Parents are more likely to see a pre-teen misbehaving as a deliberate act rather than just a developmental issue. Consequently, parents may be more likely to react negatively to their pre-teen, rather than trying to understand why they are behaving like this.<\/p>\n

The tween opportunity<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Bearing in mind, children will still listen to their parents over their friends from ten to 12, the tween years present a golden opportunity to set up good parenting practices for the teenage years.<\/p>\n

In the pre-teen years, parents can make small adjustments to their parenting style to retain what works, but also acknowledge their child\u2019s new maturity.<\/p>\n

Positive attention, praise and rewards for good behaviour will still work, but need to be age-appropriate. This might mean having a friend over as a reward rather than a sticker on a star chart.<\/p>\n

Rules and boundaries are also still important, but perhaps you can set them more in partnership with the child, to build trust and to set up patterns for positive communication down the track.<\/p>\n

Maintaining strong, open and two-way communication with your tween is vital. Your ability to model cool negotiation and constructive conflict management will be pivotal in helping your tween and future young adult do the same.<\/p>\n

Taking a breath or counting to five in your head before reacting to something you don\u2019t like (something your child has said or done) gives you the space to think through a more constructive response. It also allows your child time to pause and consider the impact of their behaviour or words.<\/p>\n

Staying connected and building mutual trust will help you both to navigate the murky waters of your child\u2019s need for privacy and your need for assurance of their safety. Ensure you carve out time in your day to just sit and talk. You could ask your child about the most exciting part of their day. Or get their opinion on what to have for dinner this week.<\/p>\n

These positive conversations are like money in the bank \u2013 investments that can be drawn upon later when more serious conversations are needed about trickier things like going out with friends or sexuality.<\/p>\n

More support earlier on<\/strong><\/h4>\n

The pre-teen period is often overlooked when it comes to parenting. Yet, it is a golden opportunity to better support parents when their children are going through significant developmental changes.<\/p>\n

If parents are supported to adapt their parenting and communication style they can build a strong relationship with their tween and grow alongside their children. This will then help them navigate the fascinating, unique and important teenage years ahead.<\/p>\n

Author Bio:<\/strong> Catherine Wade is a Research Affiliate, Faculty of Health Sciences at the University of Sydney<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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