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During the last couple of decades, new types of parents have emerged. From the anxiously involved\u00a0helicopter parents<\/a>\u00a0to the pushy\u00a0tiger mums<\/a>, these differing styles all have one thing in common: they tend to involve over-parenting. This is where parents micromanage their children\u2019s lives \u2013 giving them little autonomy, putting too much pressure on them to achieve academic and personal success, while allowing few chances for their children to experience failure and frustration.<\/p>\n

These are the\u00a0parents<\/a>\u00a0who run back to school when their children forget their sports kit, do their homework, and ask others in the parent\u00a0WhatsApp<\/a>\u00a0chat for the homework when their child does not bring it home. These parents believe their children are always right. They will confront teachers if the child feels they have been unfairly treated, or will confront other parents if, say, their child is not invited to a party.<\/p>\n

As their children grow, these parents decide which GCSEs their children should choose, and do not allow their adolescents to travel on their own because they are afraid they may be kidnapped. These parents may well accompany their children to university applicant interviews, or even to job interviews. And they are parents who consider themselves their child\u2019s best friend rather than their parent.<\/p>\n

While there is no doubt that these parental behaviours are acts of love, the problem is that by making sure that the children never fail an assignment, experience a detention, or the disappointment of not being invited to a party, these parents are not letting them fail. As a result, they are effectively hindering their child\u2019s\u00a0development<\/a>.<\/p>\n

The power of failure<\/strong><\/h4>\n

By learning to overcome failure, children develop\u00a0resilience<\/a>. They learn to deal with frustration and to regulate their emotions properly. And it is crucial children develop these skills during childhood to be able to lead successful lives.<\/p>\n

Most of the research on over-parenting has focused on how it has affected university students. But the link between over-involved parents and negative consequences is found when examining children of all ages. Indeed, pre-school and primary school\u00a0children<\/a>\u00a0of over-involved parents tend to experience high levels of shyness, anxiety and poor peer relations.<\/p>\n

When examining adolescents and university students, these negative consequences continue. For example, 16 to 28 year-old\u00a0students<\/a>\u00a0who reported having helicopter parents were more likely to have low levels of self-efficacy \u2013 the trust that people have in their own abilities and skills \u2013 and poor relationships with their peers.<\/p>\n

In similar research, young people who reported having over-involved parents experienced higher levels of depression and stress, less satisfaction with\u00a0life<\/a>, as well as less ability to regulate their\u00a0emotions<\/a>. They also reported a higher sense of entitlement, and increased\u00a0drug use<\/a>\u00a0than young people with less involved parents.<\/p>\n

Bad for parents too<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Over-parenting does not only have negative consequences for the children, though. Parents who over-parent are more likely to experience high levels of\u00a0anxiety<\/a>, stress and regret. This in turn has negative consequences for their children, who may pick up on their parents\u2019 anxiety and make it their own.<\/p>\n

This may be one of the reasons why the number of university students struggling with\u00a0anxiety<\/a>\u00a0and depression is at an all-time high. Indeed, a recent poll concluded that\u00a0one in five university students<\/a>\u00a0in the UK suffers from high anxiety levels.<\/p>\n

So, should all parents back off and not get involved in their children\u2019s lives? Not quite. Because to make matters more complicated,\u00a0research clearly shows<\/a>\u00a0that children who have involved parents tend to do better at school, have higher levels of self-esteem, and better peer relations than children whose parents are not as involved.<\/p>\n

Children whose parents are warm, loving and have high expectations of them tend to do better than children of cold and undemanding parents. The difficulty lies in establishing what the right amount of love and demandingness is. So, the key aspect that researchers are now trying to establish is what the\u00a0optimal level<\/a>\u00a0of parental involvement is.<\/p>\n

There is no doubt that parents want to protect their children and avoid them getting hurt but they also need to consider when that level of protection becomes too much. So, next time your child rings from school asking you to bring in their sports kit, think twice before doing it.<\/p>\n

Life inevitably brings problems and disappointment. It is better to teach children how to face these issues rather than to solve all their problems for them. By doing so, parents will help children to develop resilience and the ability to deal with frustration \u2013 tools that will allow them to thrive once they leave the parental home.<\/p>\n

Author Bio:<\/strong> Ana Aznar is a Lecturer in Psychology at the University of Winchester<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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