{"id":46480,"date":"2019-01-07T13:18:56","date_gmt":"2019-01-07T21:18:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/world.edu\/?p=46480"},"modified":"2019-01-07T13:18:56","modified_gmt":"2019-01-07T21:18:56","slug":"adolescence-can-be-awkward-heres-how-parents-can-help-their-child-make-and-maintain-good-friendships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/world.edu\/adolescence-can-be-awkward-heres-how-parents-can-help-their-child-make-and-maintain-good-friendships\/","title":{"rendered":"Adolescence can be awkward. Here\u2019s how parents can help their child make and maintain good friendships"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\nSecondary school can be a lonely place for adolescents who don\u2019t have a best friend or a group of trusted friends. Young people will be more skilled in the art of making genuine friends (and keeping them) if they know how to be assertive, are optimistic about life, have some basic social skills and have a relationship with a parent\/carer that includes honest talk.<\/p>\n

Friendship troubles<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Secondary school, in particular the junior secondary years, coincides with a time in life when young people are pushing new\u00a0social and family boundaries<\/a>. The transition to secondary school is especially demanding as once dependent kids become more independent in a new schooling order of new routines, new teachers, and new friends.<\/p>\n

Young people can be cruel and unkind to each other and to adults in this stage of life. Being\u00a0bullied<\/a>, teased and left out are\u00a0signs of friendship troubles<\/a>. Understandably, victims of bullying\u00a0feel less positive<\/a>\u00a0about the school environment.<\/p>\n

Be assertive, not aggressive<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Being assertive can help young people in not only sticking up for themselves, but it can also communicate to others a sense of self-assuredness. An assertive way of speaking and being can make young people attractive and more popular with peers.<\/p>\n

Assertiveness<\/a>\u00a0involves polite but firm talk, eye contact, and controlled behaviour. It\u2019s not to be confused with aggression which often takes the form of a raised voice, insults, put-downs and greedy behaviour.<\/p>\n

One way adults can foster assertiveness in young people is to encourage it in the safe environment of the home. Young people can practice assertive language and behaviour when they explain to siblings that their room is not a public thoroughfare, when they defend their right to use the bathroom by themselves but in a timely way, when they argue they need quiet and time alone to complete homework.<\/p>\n

Optimism can lead to success<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Grief and tears about friendships are inevitable in the secondary school years. At some stage, your child is likely to come home either sullen, withdrawn, crying or moody. They may even experience\u00a0school refusal<\/a>, which is when they refuse, or are reluctant about going to school.<\/p>\n

An adolescent who has a positive mindset is more likely to bounce back into the usual routines of friendships. When a young person has a positive mindset, they tend to see setbacks and troubles as temporary. They identify them for what they are (specific, time-related issues) rather than for what they are not (global and eternal).<\/p>\n

That is to say, positive kids are more likely to identify a specific and reasoned account of friendship troubles (\u201cSally was mean to me today because she was in a terrible mood\u201d) rather than a global and exaggerated account (\u201cSally is mean, she has always hated me\u201d).<\/p>\n

You can foster a positive mindset in your child by modelling and encouraging positive self-talk in the home. Expect your child to be looking forward to something each day at school. That might be catching up with friends, a particular class in school or even an exam or test!<\/p>\n

Social skills and being genuine<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Adolescents are more likely to fit in and make friendships if they are seen to be socially acceptable by their peers. Ask yourself if your child is comfortable with, and knows how to enter a group situation and greet friends. Does your adolescent mix with friends in the schoolyard during breaks? Does your child talk about their friendships at home? How many of your child\u2019s friends do you know well?<\/p>\n

Poor social skills can lead to\u00a0increased loneliness<\/a>\u00a0in adolescents.<\/p>\n

Being cool is a strong driver for secondary students. But being authentic is even more appealing. Adolescents\u00a0recognise and appreciate<\/a>\u00a0genuine and authentic people \u2013 even if the peer is a bit quirky and seen as an outsider. It\u2019s also a good idea to make contact with teachers at your child\u2019s school to ask about their perceptions of how your child mixes socially with their peers.<\/p>\n

Healthy relationships with adults<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Children who have good and healthy relationships with adults are more likely to have good and healthy relationships with their peers. So, it\u2019s important for you to foster a supportive relationship with your child. Try to be an encouraging parent who really listens to your child\u2019s concerns. Your child will not expect you to have all the answers.<\/p>\n

But it\u2019s likely a\u00a0listening ear and a measured and moderate response<\/a>\u00a0will be welcomed by your adolescent child. If your child perceives you to be fair, that will go a long way to establishing a solid relationship between adult and child. In turn, it will increase the chance your child will have good relationships with his or her peers.<\/p>\n

Adolescence can be tricky to navigate from a parent\u2019s perspective. Making and maintaining healthy friendships is just one battle of the teenage years. Parental role-modelling, encouragement and seeking support from the school can make this aspect of the adolescent years rewarding and fruitful for many years to come.<\/p>\n

Author Bio: <\/strong>Michael Chambers is a Lecturer, School of Education (Qld) at the Australian Catholic University<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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