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People tend to look at you weird if you have four kids. And people tend to look at you weird when they find out you\u2019re doing a PhD. So you can imagine that I have had a generous share of strange looks over the last few years. Common reactions would include:<\/p>\n
\u2018Are you crazy??\u2019<\/em><\/p>\n \u2018You must be a supermum!\u2019<\/em><\/p>\n \u2018How on earth do you do that?\u2019<\/em><\/p>\n And of course, the often unspoken question:\u00a0\u2018Why?\u2019<\/em><\/p>\n I received a lot of well-intentioned advice during my PhD. It turns out I didn\u2019t follow most of it. So here are the rules I broke, and the things that worked for me.<\/p>\n (I will add a disclaimer up front: Yes, I had a very supportive husband. He would pitch in with all aspects of parenting and running the house. This is just my experience and it will be different for everyone.)<\/p>\n The rules I broke:<\/p>\n Get as much done as possible before your first<\/strong><\/p>\n I\u2019ve come across very organised people that schedule their pregnancies around their PhD plan. They have the first baby after the data collection, and perhaps add a second shortly after submitting.<\/p>\n I didn\u2019t follow this sensible approach. I was pregnant with my first when I started my PhD. I squeezed in the bulk of my data collection in between #3 and #4. It was probably harder the way I did it, but I don\u2019t regret it.<\/p>\n Get childcare organised while pregnant<\/strong><\/p>\n Childcare places can book out quickly, especially those on-site at the University. This seems like sound advice, it just wasn\u2019t the path we took. We chose not to use paid childcare, instead we juggled my PhD around my husband\u2019s work. Towards the end we reduced his hours and juggled his work around my PhD.<\/p>\n Accept offers for help with childcare from extended family and friends<\/strong><\/p>\n I highly recommend that parents take up offers of help with childcare from family and friends. Unfortunately this wasn\u2019t available to us. Family members worked full-time, we lived in three different areas, and we hadn\u2019t yet established a friendship network to share childcare. Definitely great advice, it just didn\u2019t play out that way for us.<\/p>\n Use all small chunks of time<\/strong><\/p>\n Making use of small chunks of time in your day can really maximise your efficiency. Unless you\u2019re like me, and it just doesn\u2019t work for you. I remember taking a stack of papers to the park to read, but I could never hold my eyes on the page long enough because my toddler would be wandering off. I would try to catch up on the literature while the kids were nodding off to sleep beside me, only to find myself reading the same paragraph repeatedly wondering what it even meant. The reality for me is that I work best with longer working sessions. It takes me a while to get into things, but when I\u2019m in \u2013 I\u2019m in deep. So I need to make time to allow my brain to do good thinking work.<\/p>\n Get your baby sleeping through the night ASAP<\/strong><\/p>\n Seriously, people. Put your order in for a child that sleeps 12 hours straight from newborn. Ummm\u2026 yeah, didn\u2019t happen in my house. But hey, breastfeeding through the night is biologically normal and a preventative factor against SIDS. It\u2019s not all bad.<\/p>\n Schedule time to work away from the house + kids + distractions<\/strong><\/p>\n I would do this at times, but I often found my best work was in my own house. It was noisy, and they did interrupt, but we tried to teach them that mummy needed to work.<\/p>\n Keep data collection simple<\/strong><\/p>\n I was given very sensible advice about how to collect data in the most simple, efficient manner possible. In Psychology, that could mean a University student sample or recruiting online participants. Instead, I followed my passion and recruited eight schools to take part in my main research project.<\/p>\n Things that helped me:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Use a baby carrier<\/strong><\/p>\n Invest in a good quality, supportive carrier that is comfortable for both you and baby. Join your local sling meet to find out how to use it. It makes it so much easier to work while keeping baby settled.<\/p>\n Trusting my instincts One thing I\u2019ve learnt as a parent is that everyone parents differently. Do what works for you, and follow your own instinct. If things aren\u2019t working, read online, ask other parents, and experiment with different approaches.<\/p>\n Staying focussed<\/strong><\/p>\n Doing a PhD is a massive undertaking, but the project can get increasingly bigger if it veers off course. Set clear goals of what your final thesis will cover, and how each study fits together, so that you can maintain productivity even during slower working periods.<\/p>\n Publishing throughout<\/strong><\/p>\n I did my thesis by publication, and there were times I doubted this decision. Responding to reviews, re-writing work multiple times, and re-formatting for different journals can be very time consuming. However, I felt it saved time in having to write for the thesis and then re-write for publication. My fourth and final paper from my thesis was published a few months after graduation, so now my PhD feels properly \u201cfinished\u201d.<\/p>\n
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